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I Don’t Want to Be Here

If you do not want to be here, your safety matters right now. You do not have to explain it perfectly before reaching for help.

Need help right now? If you might harm yourself or someone else, contact emergency services now. In the UK call 999, call Samaritans on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.

First five minutes

  • If you might hurt yourself, call emergency services now or go to the nearest emergency department.
  • Move away from anything you could use to harm yourself, or ask someone else to hold it.
  • Contact one person and say: I am not safe on my own right now.

What it can feel like

  • Wanting the pain to stop rather than wanting life itself to end.
  • Feeling numb, trapped, ashamed, exhausted or unable to see another way.
  • Thinking nobody would understand if you said it out loud.

Why it can happen

  • These thoughts can appear when distress, depression, trauma, isolation, grief, shame, pain or crisis becomes too heavy.
  • Having the thought does not mean you are broken. It means you need support and safety now.

What can help

  • Stay near another person or in a safer public space until the intensity drops.
  • Delay any action. Give yourself the next ten minutes, then the next ten.
  • Use urgent support even if part of you thinks you are not serious enough.

Free support options

  • UK: call 999 for immediate danger, Samaritans on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
  • Outside the UK: contact your local emergency number or national crisis line.

Important note

This guide is for education and signposting. It cannot diagnose you or replace care from a qualified professional. If you feel at risk, seek urgent local help.

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