What it can feel like
- You may feel scared of saying the wrong thing.
- You may worry that asking directly will make it worse.
- You may feel responsible for fixing everything alone.
Why it can happen
- People in suicidal crisis often feel trapped, ashamed, like a burden or unable to see another way through.
- Direct, compassionate questions can help people feel less alone.
What can help
- Ask clearly and gently: are you thinking about suicide?
- Listen without arguing, judging or rushing to fix it.
- Do not leave them alone if there is immediate danger.
- Move away anything they could use to harm themselves, if you can do so safely.
- Call emergency services, NHS 111, a local crisis team, Samaritans or another crisis service depending on urgency.
Free support options
- UK: call 999 if there is immediate danger, Samaritans on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258.
- Outside the UK: contact the local emergency number or a national crisis line.
Important note
This guide is for education and signposting. It cannot diagnose you or replace care from a qualified professional. If you feel at risk, seek urgent local help.