What it can feel like
- Sadness, shock, numbness, anger, guilt, relief, confusion or longing.
- Crying often, not crying at all, or feeling fine one moment and broken the next.
- Tiredness, poor sleep, appetite changes, chest heaviness or brain fog.
- Feeling out of step with the world because everyone else seems to carry on.
Why it can happen
- Grief is a response to loss. It is not something you complete on a timetable.
- Anniversaries, songs, places, objects and ordinary moments can bring waves of grief back.
What can help
- Let grief be uneven. A hard day does not mean you have gone backwards.
- Talk, write, remember or sit quietly with the loss in whatever way feels bearable.
- Try to keep basic care going: food, water, sleep, medication and gentle contact.
- Seek extra support if grief feels unbearable, you feel unsafe, or daily life becomes impossible.
Free support options
- Look for bereavement charities, local grief groups, faith/community support or GP signposting.
- Use crisis support if grief comes with thoughts of suicide or self-harm.
Important note
This guide is for education and signposting. It cannot diagnose you or replace care from a qualified professional. If you feel at risk, seek urgent local help.